Show me a hero

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“Show me a hero and I’ll prove he’s a bum” – Major Greg (Pappy) Boyington USMC air wing 214

The person that appears to be a knight in shining armor, person that seems to be your soul mate may not be, funny that.  We all have that side we tend  to hide. The deep dark if you will.  That is one thing my ex could deal with. She could deal with the demons and the horrors  in my head.  My past is not the bright shining portrait that Norman Rockwell would paint.  It’s the place that is filled will post traumatic stress disorder, survivors guilt and depression yes a mental shop of horrors.  This she could deal with. She could not how ever deal with other issues that if I had stopped and taken a second I should have seen. Does this mean she was the hero, no, she was a workaholic, selfish and forgot I was there. This is not a bash session, it’s a post on we all have a Jekyll / Hyde, an angel / demon.  Don’t fall in love with only half a person because sooner or later the door will open and out will pop someone new. At this point you had better be ready to step up or step aside.


Stop leaving and you will arrive 
“Stop leaving and you will arrive. Stop searching and you will see. Stop running away and you will be found.”
Lao Tzu
We all do it. We leave things undone. We look for the perfect partner some times if we stop looking and start seeing we will find.  If we stop running from issues and responsibility we will find happiness and peace.  We think the grass is greener over there well if it is they use fertilizer.  What is the best fertilizer in a relationship talking.  That gets the shit out in the open and all over the lawn, this is not a bad thing.  See when something is talked about, you may see that the issue is not as bad as the rift you have caused in the relationship.  My ex and I have found we really like the person we have found in all our chats.  Funny that talking a small issue out could in the big picture, maybe, just maybe stop the  discussion over who gets the china and when can I see the kids. That one effects more than you, just say’n.  so to recap —
“Stop leaving and you will arrive.
 Stop searching and you will see.
 Stop running away and you will be found.”
Lao Tzu
Their you go seems simple to bad we all have an aversion to simple.